“If it leaves you feeling sad, shameful or disappointed, is it right for you?” Have you ever had a conversation with someone and felt like you are going round in circles? Like the pair of you are in a spiral of blame, guilt and control, going through the same motions and getting the same negative results and feelings? Chances are you are not going round in circles but in fact, going round in triangles!! Huh?!? Now I know that the phrase ‘going around in triangles’ doesn’t hav

How often do you use the word 'should'? Do you even notice? I have to admit that I have a real dislike for the word ‘should’. Whenever I hear myself using it, my shoulders tighten and my skin crawls. I wince. I hear it and it hurts. Why? Its just a word, right? Yes, maybe it is just a word but it carries so much with it. The word ‘should’ implies that there is a right way of being and if we do not meet this then we are wrong, flawed, inadequate in some way. It suggests that t

“I should have done better” “I always mess things up” “I’m a bad person” Any of these sound familiar? They are just words, right? They don’t mean anything, no big deal. Nope!! Phrases like the above have been popping up a lot around me recently, in my clients, friends, and yes, even my own head and so this month’s blog is shining a light on the negative scripts that can run through our head. Now let me make this clear, right from the off – having thought these thoughts does n